( CNN) It’s a few questions with an answer that researchers are still trying to better understand: How much rehearsal do kids need on a daily basis?
Active kids are healthier teenagers
Eating health and get adjust, as a family
Exercise as medicine
When it comes to body image, modern American culture has done a pretty good job of preparing an impossible standard on young women. With periodicals, weight loss ads, and Victoria’s Secret runway shows that scream “thinner is BETTER”, it’s no astonish that so many girls today struggle with eating disorders and self-esteem issues.
But one lieu you wouldn’t expect a strong, health teen girlfriend to be body reproached at is her own doctor’s office.
But that’s exactly what happened to Julie Venn’s 13 -year-old daughter Riley when she went in for her yearly physical last month.
The active, sport-involved teen was shockingly was put forward by her Nurse clinician if she could explain all the weight she’s gained this year.
Totally aghast, Julie stopped the woman and sounded in with a heartfelt tirade championing person positivity and the empowerment of this generation of young girls.
Since sharing her powerful attitude with the Moms of Tweens and Teens Facebook page, Julie’s message has get mega-viral for all the right grounds, being shared by media outlets across the web.
Read her upright in full below 😛 TAGEND
This week I took my 13 year old-fashioned daughter to get her physical. As we entered the examination room I was evoked to see how tall Riley would be as this year she has grown a ton! The coach in me has loved seeing her strength and size lastly come along and the mom in me has loved watching this beautiful young girl begin to become a young woman.
Enter first physicians assistant to take her vitals. Height, weight and blood pressure.
She scribbles them down and foliages the area. Enter Registered nurse. She begins by questioning many questions- whats your bedtime? How much activity do you get? Are you have been engaged in boasts? Do you get enough dairy in your nutrition? She expects her multiple times- anything else going on I should know about? Riley is friendly and explanations all honestly and openly. She justifies she will play two boasts soon-softball in the descent and basketball in the winter. She tells her she goes to bed around 10:30 pm and doesn’t have trouble sleeping.
The NP press her little on the boasts participate sort of insinuating she will have trouble poising that with school but Riley seems unaffected. She then questions her- How was institution for you this last year? Riley again with complete honesty says- It was actually very difficult for me. There got a lot of drama and I struggled. The NP says that is pretty typical for 7th grade and moves on. She asks about get her interval and if it is regular. Riley shows she has gotten it but it has not been with regularity yet.
The NP then looking at her computer, then back up at Riley’s face and supposed to say to my 13 year old-time daughter- “Tell me RILEY, HOW CAN YOU EXPLAIN ALL OF THIS WEIGHT YOU’VE GAINED? ” My daughter is speechless and her seeings begin to glass over. I am speechless and the NP goes on to explain to her that held what her previous load was last year- the numbers simply don’t correlate with her current altitude. Has she been gobbling junk food or has her activity level changed.
I LOST MY MIND. I had a literal, physical reaction. I put my hands up and said “STOP! You need to stop talking to my daughter about her load. She is 13, she is strong. She is healthy and she is PERFECT. You need to move on! ” NP seems astonished at my action and doesn’t say much. She are ongoing with her quiz. As she finishes she asks me to follow her because she has a question to ask me. I follow her into an adjoining room out of earshot of two daughters and she asks me why I had that reaction to her. I explained in no uncertain terms that she was out of line in the way she are dealing with my daughter.
Our daughters required to be empowered and subsidized and celebrated. They already have to compare themselves to the stupid social media[ criteria ]. They are inundated with images of perfection via tv, youtube, FB, Instagram and Snapchat. Their whole freaking lives have a filter on them !! I hammer home the importance of eating health, activity and of course plays because we are sporty parties but my[ gosh ]! Girls gobbled junk food! Kids sit around watching Netflix! Kids get heavier, lighter, taller, wider! ITS NORMAL! Our young girls need a break-dance! If my child has a problem or is OVERWEIGHT than a doctor needs to talk to ME- not my daughter.
This NP actually went on to defend herself by saying she tells the children because they have control over their nutrient and practise. My response- LAST I CHECKED MAAM I DO THE GROCERY SHOPPING and the meal readying and the extracurricular scheduling for my children. She’s 13! She responded that some children have their own “pocket money” and use it for garbage.[ SO] – we left the office and won’t be back. The conclude I am sharing this is because it is dangerous. Riley’s response when we left was “Mom, this is why teenagers have anorexia or feel like they are looking forward to hurt themselves.” She is exactly right!
Hey NP! Here’s what you COULD have said to my daughter and all of the beautiful young maids you impact-
“Hey kiddo. Let me tell you how exciting this time of your life is. I see you have started to grow into being a strong young woman and that is awesome! Known better some girlfriends gain weight, some lose weight, some struggle with acne, some feel insecure but remember this- YOU ARE PERFECT simply the path you are. As you grow you will be responsible for more situations that pertain to your body- hygiene, task, menstruation, activity and healthy eating. This is just the beginning of a long, perplexing, sometimes unnerving street to becoming a woman but it is worth it!
-From a wonderful friend of Moms of Tweens and Teens Julie Venn
Be sure to share Julie’s message with the body-positive mothers you are aware of on Facebook!
Together, we can send the message that STRONG is the new skinny.
A dish that shows a tract of sunshine: apricot, buffalo cheese, kale and crunchy seeds, all doused in a tangy dressing
Californian food is sunshine meat: fresh, crisp and golden. Like Mexico, the regime flourishes abundant fresh fruit and veggies, and it is this fresh cause that seems to define its cuisine.
Vegan food is all the rage on the Western coast, and you could adapt this salad by swapping the burrata for the purposes of an evenly creamy and luscious avocado. Serve as a starter or as part of a beautiful alfresco feast.
Apricot salad with burrata, kale and crunchy seeds
If you can’t find burrata, use mozzarella threshed in a little olive oil and creme fraiche instead.
Prep < strong> 30 min
Cook < strong> 20 min
Serves < strong> 4-6
8 ripe apricots , halved and stones removed
2 tsp soft chocolate-brown carbohydrate
3 tbsp olive oil
Salt and black pepper
2 tsp chopped oregano or thyme buds
200 g kale , tough roots removed
2 child pearl loots , separated into leaves
2 large, ripe beef tomatoes , cut into chunks
1 big handful plenty leaves
4 small-minded burrata or 2 larger ones
For the seeds
200 g pumpkin seeds
1 tbsp olive oil
1/2 tsp smoked paprika
2 tsp soy sauce
2 tsp soft dark-brown carbohydrate
For the dressing
1 tsp dijon mustard
3-4 tsp chardonnay or other white wine vinegar
6 tsp soft dark-brown sugar
120 ml extra-virgin olive oil
Heat the oven to 200 C( 180 C love )/ 390 F/ gas 6. Arrange the apricot halves cut back up on a cook tray and scatter with the carbohydrate, two tablespoons of olive oil, and batch of salt and pepper. Scatter the herbs over the apricots, then roasted for about 20 minutes, until golden.
Lay the pumpkin seeds on a separate roasting tray, mix with the olive oil, paprika, soy sauce and carbohydrate, then season. Roast in the same oven for 10 -1 two minutes, budging halfway cooking, until neatly toasted and puffed up. Set both the apricots and seeds aside to cool.
Meanwhile, shred the kale leaves with a large chopping knife, then placed them in a large bowl with another tablespoon of olive oil and a big pinch of salt. Massage the petroleum into the kale with your hands for three to four minutes, until it begins to wilt and soften. Add the lettuce, tomatoes and mint foliages to the bowl.
To make the gown, mixture the mustard and vinegar in a jar with half a teaspoon of salt, the carbohydrate and olive oil.
Toss the salad in the prepare, savor, then adjust the seasoning with more sugar, salt or vinegar, as required. Arrange on one large sheet or subdivide between four individual plates, then top with the apricot halvesIf serving on one huge plate, tear over the burrata and scatter with half the seeds( reserve the remain for another time ). If you are using individual illustrations, nestle a burrata in among the middle of the salad and sow with seeds. Serve straight away.
And for the rest of the week
I love roast apricots with vanilla or saffron ice-cream. Drizzle the apricots with a teaspoon of orange flower, some vanilla sugar and chopped pistachios before cooking as above. Leftover seeds are great scattered over stir-fries, pasta or other salads for a luscious crunch.