When it comes to body image, modern American culture has done a pretty good undertaking of defining an impossible criterion on young lady. With magazines, weight loss ads, and Victoria’s Secret runway shows that scream “thinner is BETTER”, it’s no surprise that so many daughters today struggle with anorexia nervosa and self-esteem issues.
But one place you wouldn’t expect a strong, health teen girlfriend to be figure reproached at is her own doctor’s office.
But that’s exactly what happened to Julie Venn’s 13 -year-old daughter Riley when “shes gone” in for her yearly physical last-place month.
The active, sport-involved teenage was shockingly asked by her Nurse Practitioner if she could explain all the heavines she’s gained this year.
Totally aghast, Julie stopped the woman and chimed in with a heartfelt tirade endorse body positivity and the empowerment of the current generation of young girls.
Since sharing her potent position with the Moms of Tweens and Teens Facebook page, Julie’s message has departed mega-viral for all the right intellects, being said that he shared media stores across the web.
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This week I took my 13 year old-fashioned daughter to get her physical. As we entered the examination chamber I was stimulated to see how towering Riley would be as this year she has grown a ton! The coach in me has desired do with her persuasivenes and sizing finally come along and the mom in me has cherished watching this beautiful young girl begin to become a young woman.
Enter first physicians assistant to take her vitals. Height, weight and blood pressure.
She scribbled them down and leaves the chamber. Enter Nurse practitioner. She begins by questioning many questions- whats your bedtime? How much practice do you get? Are you to participate in athletics? Do you get enough dairy in your diet? She requests her multiple times- anything else going on I should know about? Riley is friendly and reacts all candidly and openly. She illustrates she will play two athletics soon-softball in the drop-off and basketball in the winter. She tells her she goes to bed around 10:30 pm and doesn’t have trouble sleeping.
The NP presses her little on the boasts participation sort of insinuating she will have trouble poising that with institution but Riley seems unaffected. She then requests her- How was institution for you this last year? Riley again with ended integrity says- It was actually very difficult for me. There was a lot of drama and I fought. The NP says that is pretty typical for 7th tier and moves on. She asks about going her period and only if they are regular. Riley shows she has gotten it but it has not been with regularity yet.
The NP then looks down at her computer, then back up at Riley’s face and says to my 13 time old-time daughter- “Tell me RILEY, HOW CAN YOU EXPLAIN ALL OF THIS WEIGHT YOU’VE GAINED? ” My daughter is speechless and her sees begin to glass over. I am speechless and the NP goes on to explain to her that contributed what her previous weight was last year- the numbers only don’t match with her current stature. Has she been chewing junk food or has her ” activities changed.
I LOST MY MIND. I had a literal, physical reaction. I introduced my hand up and said “STOP! You need to stop talking to my daughter about her heavines. She is 13, she is strong. She is healthy and she works PERFECT. You need to move on! ” NP seems surprised at my action and doesn’t say much. She continues with her quiz. As she finishes she asks me to follow her because she has a question to ask me. I follow her into an adjoining area out of earshot of two daughters and she asks me why I had that reaction to her. I explained in no uncertain terms that she was out of pipeline in accordance with the rules she dealt with my daughter.
Our daughters is essential to empowered and supported and celebrated. They already have to compare themselves to the laughable social media[ touchstones ]. They are filled with epitomes of perfection via tv, youtube, FB, Instagram and Snapchat. Their whole freaking lives have a filter on them !! I hammer home the important role played by gobbling healthy, practising and of course athletics because we are sporty beings but my[ gosh ]! Kids eat junk food! Kids sit around watching Netflix! Kids get heavier, lighter, taller, wider! Normal conditions of! Our young girls requirement a interruption! If their own children has a problem or is OVERWEIGHT than a doctor needs to talk to ME- not my daughter.
This NP actually went on to defend herself by saying she tells the kids because they have limit over their meat and usage. My response- LAST I CHECKED MAAM I DO THE GROCERY SHOPPING and the snack planning and the extracurricular scheduling for my children. She’s 13! She responded that some kids have their own “pocket money” and use it for junk.[ SO] – we left the bureau and won’t be back. The reasonablenes I am sharing this is because it is dangerous. Riley’s response when we left was “Mom, this is why kids have anorexia or feel like they want to hurt themselves.” She is exactly right!
Hey NP! Here’s what you COULD have said to two daughters and all of the beautiful young ladies you impact-
“Hey kiddo. Let me tell you how exciting these times of your life is. I see you have started to grow into being a strong young woman and that is awesome! Is recognized that some daughters gain weight, some lose weight, some struggle with acne, some feel insecure but remember this- YOU ARE PERFECT just the route “youre gonna have to”. As you grow you will be responsible for more things that pertain to your body- cleanlines, act, menstruation, rehearsal and healthy eating. This is just the beginning of a long, flustering, sometimes frightening road to becoming a woman but it is worth it!
-From a wonderful friend of Moms of Tweens and Teens Julie Venn
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Together, we can send the message that STRONG is the new skinny.