When it comes to body image, modern American culture has done a pretty good job of preparing an impossible standard on young women. With periodicals, weight loss ads, and Victoria’s Secret runway shows that scream “thinner is BETTER”, it’s no astonish that so many girls today struggle with eating disorders and self-esteem issues.
But one lieu you wouldn’t expect a strong, health teen girlfriend to be body reproached at is her own doctor’s office.
But that’s exactly what happened to Julie Venn’s 13 -year-old daughter Riley when she went in for her yearly physical last month.
The active, sport-involved teen was shockingly was put forward by her Nurse clinician if she could explain all the weight she’s gained this year.
Totally aghast, Julie stopped the woman and sounded in with a heartfelt tirade championing person positivity and the empowerment of this generation of young girls.
Since sharing her powerful attitude with the Moms of Tweens and Teens Facebook page, Julie’s message has get mega-viral for all the right grounds, being shared by media outlets across the web.
Read her upright in full below 😛 TAGEND
This week I took my 13 year old-fashioned daughter to get her physical. As we entered the examination room I was evoked to see how tall Riley would be as this year she has grown a ton! The coach in me has loved seeing her strength and size lastly come along and the mom in me has loved watching this beautiful young girl begin to become a young woman.
Enter first physicians assistant to take her vitals. Height, weight and blood pressure.
She scribbles them down and foliages the area. Enter Registered nurse. She begins by questioning many questions- whats your bedtime? How much activity do you get? Are you have been engaged in boasts? Do you get enough dairy in your nutrition? She expects her multiple times- anything else going on I should know about? Riley is friendly and explanations all honestly and openly. She justifies she will play two boasts soon-softball in the descent and basketball in the winter. She tells her she goes to bed around 10:30 pm and doesn’t have trouble sleeping.
The NP press her little on the boasts participate sort of insinuating she will have trouble poising that with school but Riley seems unaffected. She then questions her- How was institution for you this last year? Riley again with complete honesty says- It was actually very difficult for me. There got a lot of drama and I struggled. The NP says that is pretty typical for 7th grade and moves on. She asks about get her interval and if it is regular. Riley shows she has gotten it but it has not been with regularity yet.
The NP then looking at her computer, then back up at Riley’s face and supposed to say to my 13 year old-time daughter- “Tell me RILEY, HOW CAN YOU EXPLAIN ALL OF THIS WEIGHT YOU’VE GAINED? ” My daughter is speechless and her seeings begin to glass over. I am speechless and the NP goes on to explain to her that held what her previous load was last year- the numbers simply don’t correlate with her current altitude. Has she been gobbling junk food or has her activity level changed.
I LOST MY MIND. I had a literal, physical reaction. I put my hands up and said “STOP! You need to stop talking to my daughter about her load. She is 13, she is strong. She is healthy and she is PERFECT. You need to move on! ” NP seems astonished at my action and doesn’t say much. She are ongoing with her quiz. As she finishes she asks me to follow her because she has a question to ask me. I follow her into an adjoining room out of earshot of two daughters and she asks me why I had that reaction to her. I explained in no uncertain terms that she was out of line in the way she are dealing with my daughter.
Our daughters required to be empowered and subsidized and celebrated. They already have to compare themselves to the stupid social media[ criteria ]. They are inundated with images of perfection via tv, youtube, FB, Instagram and Snapchat. Their whole freaking lives have a filter on them !! I hammer home the importance of eating health, activity and of course plays because we are sporty parties but my[ gosh ]! Girls gobbled junk food! Kids sit around watching Netflix! Kids get heavier, lighter, taller, wider! ITS NORMAL! Our young girls need a break-dance! If my child has a problem or is OVERWEIGHT than a doctor needs to talk to ME- not my daughter.
This NP actually went on to defend herself by saying she tells the children because they have control over their nutrient and practise. My response- LAST I CHECKED MAAM I DO THE GROCERY SHOPPING and the meal readying and the extracurricular scheduling for my children. She’s 13! She responded that some children have their own “pocket money” and use it for garbage.[ SO] – we left the office and won’t be back. The conclude I am sharing this is because it is dangerous. Riley’s response when we left was “Mom, this is why teenagers have anorexia or feel like they are looking forward to hurt themselves.” She is exactly right!
Hey NP! Here’s what you COULD have said to my daughter and all of the beautiful young maids you impact-
“Hey kiddo. Let me tell you how exciting this time of your life is. I see you have started to grow into being a strong young woman and that is awesome! Known better some girlfriends gain weight, some lose weight, some struggle with acne, some feel insecure but remember this- YOU ARE PERFECT simply the path you are. As you grow you will be responsible for more situations that pertain to your body- hygiene, task, menstruation, activity and healthy eating. This is just the beginning of a long, perplexing, sometimes unnerving street to becoming a woman but it is worth it!
-From a wonderful friend of Moms of Tweens and Teens Julie Venn
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Together, we can send the message that STRONG is the new skinny.