When it comes to body image, modern American culture has done a pretty good job of specifying an hopeless standard on young women. With magazines, weight loss ads, and Victoria’s Secret runway shows that scream “thinner is BETTER”, it’s no astonish that so many girls today struggle with eating disorders and self-esteem issues.
But one target you wouldn’t expect a strong, health teen girlfriend to be body dishonor is at her own doctor’s office.
But that’s exactly what happened to Julie Venn’s 13 -year-old daughter Riley when “shes gone” in for her yearly physical.
The active, sport-involved teen was shockingly asked by her Nurse practitioner if she could explain all the weight she’s gained this year.
Totally aghast, Julie stopped the woman and chimed in with a passionate ranting endorse organization positivity and the empowerment of the current generation of young girls.
Since sharing her powerful position with the Moms of Tweens and Teens Facebook page, Julie’s message has get mega-viral for all the right reasons, being said that he shared media outlets across the web.
Read her upright in full below 😛 TAGEND
This week I took my 13 year old-time daughter to get her physical. As we entered the examination room I was provoked to see how tall Riley would be as this year she has grown a ton! The manager in me has cherished seeing her strength and size finally come along and the mom in me has loved watching this beautiful young girl begin to become a young woman.
Enter first physicians assistant to take her vitals. Height, weight and blood pressure.
She jots them down and leaves the chamber. Enter Nurse Practitioner. She begins by asking many questions- whats your bedtime? How much employ do you get? Are you participate fully in athletics? Do you get enough dairy in your food? She questions her multiple times- anything else going on I should know about? Riley is friendly and answers all candidly and openly. She clarifies she will play two boasts soon-softball in the drop-off and basketball in the winter. She tells her she goes to bed around 10:30 pm and doesn’t have trouble sleeping.
The NP press her little on the boasts participation sort of insinuating she will have trouble balancing that with institution but Riley seems unaffected. She then asks her- How was academy for you this last year? Riley again with terminated integrity says- It was actually very difficult for me. There been a great deal of drama and I fought. The NP says that is pretty usual for 7th tier and is moving forward. She questions about getting her point and if it is regular. Riley shows she has gotten it but it has not been with regularity yet.
The NP then looks down at her computer, then back up at Riley’s face and supposed to say to my 13 year age-old daughter- “Tell me RILEY, HOW CAN YOU EXPLAIN ALL OF THIS WEIGHT YOU’VE GAINED? ” My daughter is speechless and her eyes begin to glass over. I am speechless and the NP goes on to explain to her that sacrificed what her previous weight was last year- the numbers merely don’t correlate with her current meridian. Has she been snacking junk food or has her activity level changed.
I LOST MY MIND. I had a literal, physical reaction. I placed my hand up and said “STOP! You need to stop talking to my daughter about her weight. She is 13, she is strong. She is healthy and she is PERFECT. You need to move on! ” NP seems astonished at my reaction and doesn’t say much. She are ongoing with her quiz. As she finishes she asks me to follow her because she has a question to ask me. I follow her into an adjoining room out of earshot of two daughters and she asks me why I had that reaction to her. I explained in no uncertain terms that she was out of line in the way she be dealing with my daughter.
Our girls required to be entitled and substantiated and celebrated. They already have to compare themselves to the nonsensical social media[ standards ]. They are inundated with images of perfection via tv, youtube, FB, Instagram and Snapchat. Their whole freaking lives have a filter on them !! I hammer home the importance of eating health, rehearsal and of course boasts because we are sporty parties but my[ gosh ]! Kids eat junk food! Kids sit around watching Netflix! Kids get heavier, lighter, taller, wider! ITS NORMAL! Our young ladies need a burst! If my child has a problem or is OVERWEIGHT than a doctor needs to talk to ME- not my daughter.
This NP actually went on to defend herself by saying she tells the kids because they have control over their meat and employ. My response- LAST I CHECKED MAAM I DO THE GROCERY SHOPPING and the dinner preparation and the extracurricular scheduling for most children. She’s 13! She responded that some kids have their own “pocket money” and use it for waste.[ SO] – we left the office and won’t be back. The intellect I am sharing this is because it is dangerous. Riley’s response when we left was “Mom, this is why kids have anorexia or definitely sounds like they want to hurt themselves.” She is exactly right!
Hey NP! Here’s what you COULD have said to my daughter and all of the beautiful young girls you impact-
“Hey kiddo. Let me tell you how eliciting this time of your life is. I see you have started to grow into being a strong young woman and that is awesome! Known better some girlfriends gain weight, some lose weight, some struggle with acne, some feel insecure but remember this- YOU ARE PERFECT merely the space “youre gonna”. As you evolve you will be responsible for more things that are relevant to your body- hygiene, act, menstruation, employ and healthy eating. This is just the beginning of a long, disorient, sometimes creepy street to becoming a woman but it is worth it!
-From a wonderful friend of Moms of Tweens and Teens Julie Venn
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Together, we can send the message that STRONG is the new skinny.